The Prophet And His Wives

The Prophet’s Good Companionship

No woman know a good marital companionship –as that companionship means in the perfectness of a person- as she knew of the Prophet of Allah ' peace be upon him ', which is clear in the Holy Quran in his attitude, sayings, and deeds.

The most things that specifies the Prophet’s morals with his wives was his good companionship, cheerfulness, joking with his family, laughing with his wives, mildness and generosity .

Even when he was racing with Aisha – mother of the believers, may Allah be pleased with- in the desert in one of his trips, is to show love to her by that. She said that the Prophet of Allah raced me and I won, that was before I gained some weight. Then I raced him after that and he won. He said:" we are equal."

The Prophet used to gather his wives everyday in the house of the one he will spend the night with. He eats dinner with them sometimes then everyone leaves to her home. He was sleeping with his wife under one slogan, which is; to take off his rope from his shoulders. After praying al Ishaa prayers (which is the last prayer of the day), he goes home and sits with his family a little before he goes to sleep.

The Prophet ' peace be upon him ' put a criterion for the best of men in the good treatment to their wives. He said:" the best one of you is the best to his family, and I am the best one of you to my family. "Narrated by At-Tirmithy
That is because artificiality and pretension of high moral standards becomes weak when the person feels that he has authority and power and becomes weaker when he stays a long time with the one he has authority on. If the person keeps on his moral perfection in a society he has power on and has continuous intimacy with, so this is the best person in morals.

If the Prophet ' peace be upon him ' is the best one for his family, so his intimacy to them must be really perfect ,in all means of moral perfection, behaviors ,love, justice, mercy, loyalty, and all what marital life demands in all conditions and days.
Sunnah books, Shamael, and Seerah clarified that. That is what honorable Sunnah shows in many of the Prophet’s sayings regarding his behaviors with his family and his treatment to them.

A- About the Prophet’s love to them Anas Bin Malek –may Allah be pleased with- says:

(1) the Prophet of Allah said:” the dearest things to me are; women, perfume, and my tranquility is in prayers.” Narrated by Ahmed and others.

(2) Amr Bin al Aas – may Allah be pleased with_ asked the Prophet :” O Prophet of Allah who is the woman you love most?” the Prophet replied: “Aisha”. Amr said:” And from men,?” he said:” her father.” Narrated by At-Tirmithiy

B- About the Prophet’s playing with his family, Aisha – may Allah be pleased with- says:

(1) I was playing with my friends at the Prophet’s home and when he ' peace be upon him ' arrives, they leave, so he let them come in to play with me again.” Narrated by Al-Bukhary

(2) Aisha -may Allah be pleased with- said :” the prophet of Allah ' peace be upon him ' was standing at the door of my room covering me with his rope; to look at the playing of the Ethiopians with their spear. He was very much concerned of Aisha’s young age who keens on having amusement”

(3)We also mentioned the previous hadith talking about the Prophet’s race with Aisha – may Allah be pleased with- which shows that the Prophet’s kindness and mercy.

(4)An example of his good companionship and the nobility of his morals:
Aisha- may Allah be pleased with- said :” I was drinking while I was menstruating and then gave the cup to the Prophet ' peace be upon him ' so he put his mouth where I put mine to drink.” Narrated by Muslim.